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Love Looks Like This: I Got Covid the Week of My Wedding

Brides is dedicated to supporting ALL couples not only while they plan their wedding but also throughout they experience the highs and lows of their relationship. There is no relationship that looks the same; every love story is lovely, has its own unique past, and faces its own struggles. For our newest feature, “Love Looks Like This,” we’re encouraging couples to share their love stories in order to celebrate that uniqueness. Sydney Kuhne, a wedding coordinator, shares her experience below.

My life altered in March 2020. I met my husband and experienced a global pandemic instead of my intended cross-country move. At the time, we both resided in Washington, D.C. Caleb was employed by the government as a data analyst, and WILDLY IN LOVE, my own wedding planning business, had just launched. Since it was one of the few things we could do together because more and more things were closing down every day, our first date was a six-mile run around the National Mall. The morning run gradually developed into a 14-hour day spent together, with the understanding that I had finally met my husband after years of praying and at the most inconvenient time.

We wanted to spend every waking moment together after that day. We were placed in quarantine lockdown for the ensuing few months, just like the rest of the world. In addition to baking new dishes, we volunteered at a nearby food bank, watched movie marathons, daydreamed about our first travel destinations after the quarantine, and went for numerous runs just to get outside. Our relationship never went through the “honeymoon” period. In quarantine, with my baggy trousers, rarely-washed hair, and lack of makeup, Caleb fell in love with me. We didn’t start seeing one other in “real clothing” until about a month into our relationship. Caleb eventually returned to work as the world began to open up, and I was assisting brides with covid elopements, wedding cancellations, and celebration reschedules.

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Ten months later, Covid’s second wave began to manifest. For the first time, we realized that “Plan B” wasn’t always a bad idea. I couldn’t have been happier when I said “yes” to spending the rest of my life with him on a picnic at sunset in Shenandoah National Park. It was time for this wedding coordinator to become a bride at last!

As a bride who has fantasized about her wedding since she was a little girl and as a wedding planner who has devoted the previous two and a half years to making the wedding fantasies of every other bride come true, I cannot even begin to describe the terrible pain I felt.Moments that we will never get back in life.

We immediately postponed our honeymoon and wedding festivities for the entire week. Even before we had finished processing what had happened, it was all gone. There were a lot of unresolved questions, intense feelings, and difficult hours of “Plan B” planning.

In the days that followed, we managed to have a secure elopement that felt unique despite the loss. Thankfully, they never showed any symptoms or tested positive. Although Caleb’s parents had already arrived in town, we were very socially removed from them. The few occasions we did see them, they were more than 10 feet apart, just observed us from the outside, stayed at a different Airbnb, and were mostly hidden by masks. Because of our worry for their well-being, the rest of our siblings, relatives, and friends stopped visiting.

photographer

Ironically, I was arguably the best-equipped person to postpone and reschedule their entire wedding in less than three days. Plan B: Our family joined the team of vendors.The remainder of our family, close friends, and the original vendor team all extended incredibly kind support to us.

My folks are not professional photographers or videographers, to go back a bit. My mother struggles to see the text on her iPhone, much less use a camera viewfinder to determine the ideal lighting, focus, or cropping. In order to provide my parents with the best tools available, we went out and bought new cameras, tripods, SD cards, ceremony microphones, and backup batteries that same week.

families and a couple

Caleb and I taught my parents how to operate camera equipment so they could record and photograph our wedding. We taught them photography techniques in the backyard of our Airbnb, including how to take a picture, check that it’s in focus, make sure they got what we wanted in the shot, etc. We practiced the “ceremony” and “sunset photographs” until they were both sufficiently at ease to perform the tasks at hand. The amount of gratitude I have for them, who documented one of the most significant days of our lives while they were also seeing their daughter’s wedding, is something I doubt I will ever be able to adequately put into words. Because of them, our future children will be able to witness these memorable occasions.

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If it wasn’t already clear, our wedding day could not have been closer to what we had envisioned, but it was really sweet anyway. I did my own makeup and hair that morning before doing my mother’s. I did something I had never done before: I chopped Caleb’s hair. My father recorded every step of getting ready. Before the first look, ceremony, and sunset shots, Caleb assembled the tripod and checked the cameras.

pair wearing rings

Covid has unquestionably played a significant role in our love journey. Our plans altered more times than I can count as a result of the pandemic, which began when we first met. Then, the unexpected happened: we tested positive the week before our wedding, forcing us to cancel everything. Even if it often seems unfair, we know that God is still good and that we may have joy even in the worst circumstances. We consider ourselves incredibly fortunate to have met at such a chaotic moment and to have the opportunity to embark on adventures through life together forever.

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